During my daily quiet time I often reflect on life especially what uplifts and motivates us to live our best lives. I have spent a lifetime studying happiness and fulfillment. While working with the happiest of people and the people in the greatest despair I have come to this conclusion – we’re all in this together. We can’t make it alone, we need each other.
My greatest and most challenging client has been myself. I ask myself what is it that assists me in getting out of a negative cycle or behavior that is no longer serving me. What immediately comes to mind is my family and friends that have stood by me and really listened. Not necessarily to fix, just to listen.
A good advisor or coach is worth their weight in gold. People that aren’t necessarily in our inner circle can look at things from another perspective because they are not emotionally invested. Sometimes attentive listening can be the most healing and greatest gift we can give each other. It is a skill set we all need to learn. If I had one piece of advice I could give, it would be find that someone that truly listens.
Through my experience I have discovered as we talk and listen to others it open us up to discover our own answers that are just below the surface waiting patiently to be acknowledged. But we have to be courageous enough to risk trusting others. A trusted support system can often get us back on track and back to our rightful destination. Grief, abandonment, depression, and a plethora of other feelings and emotions are universal to us all.
We all have strengths and gifts that we come with to serve and assist others. When you help others you ultimately help yourself. It works every time. We gain experience through life and hopefully we can share this wisdom and pass this knowledge on to others – sharing what worked and what didn’t. I ask, are you ready? One of my favorite statement’s is “the teacher appears when the student is ready”. The universe will bring it back to us always, it might be in a different city or with another face, but it always comes around again until we hear it.
We need each other to remind us of what we already know and to what we have fallen asleep to. Let us listen to our breath and hear the still small voice speaking quietly to us whispering “you have everything you need”. We’re all in this together.
Sarah Charuk When is now – WHEN Being Advisor